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3 Things I Say To Help My Children Make Better Choices

Hey Guys!

So we have had a few behaviour issues around here lately so I thought I would jump on here and share my go-to behaviour management strategies. 

So when my children (or the children in my care) are misbehaving I ask them 3 things. These things are bible based because we all strive to live a life as close to the Word as possible. 

So first thing: I say "Do unto others as you would have them do to you". My kids know that verse VERY well as they teach them this at school and at their Friday night activity. This is mainly said when whatever they are doing is impacting others around them, for example, say my son was saying harmful words to others. This can also come in handy when they are being picked on at school and they feel they want to retaliate. Most of the time all I have to say is the first part. Then they stop and think about what they are doing. At the moment with our little extra kiddos, they are still learning what this means, so letting them know each and every time they misbehave towards others, is a must. 

The next thing I ask is: "Is whatever you are doing or saying, being honourable to your parents?" In other words, how would your mum/dad react if they heard about their actions? How would they feel? How would YOU feel? The definition of honour is to regard with great respect or the quality of knowing and doing what is morally right. Once again, my kiddos are older and know what this means, however the others are younger and need these things explained to them. I would pray that if my children misbehave at school or any of their activities, that the teachers would also say this to my kids. And this leads into the next one.

Are you respecting yourself, those around you and your environment? We had a moment here when our new lil punkins arrived, they would just go into my son's room and pull out everything, break a few things, rip a few pages of books and then leave the room. So when my son got home from school, he sought them out, and asked them if they had any respect for him and his belongings. They did get disciplined over this and tidied the room up. But when my son had had his little cry over broken things, he said to them that he forgives them and that they are just things, but that they need to stay out of his room. Which is fair enough. They are so much better now that they have gotten used to the rules of our home and are adapting really well. 

Like I said, these are things that we have been going through with our kids for a long time, so just starting out, a little (or a lot) of grace and explaining is needed.

Thanks for reading! Hope these are some things that help you guys!

Jacqui xxx

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